Live authentically...

You will never be enough when you are not being yourself.

That's right.

You will never be enough when you are not being yourself.

Don't settle for the half lived life.

Don't settle for a wimpy life.

Don't quell your passion.

There are consequences for going 1/2 throttle.

Don't give up on your intensity.

You see, many of us train ourselves to disconnect or disown important aspects of who we are.

We do this to fit in or not upset the apple cart or not upset others.

But...

Being strong makes others feel strong.

Being yourself gives other people permission to be their best self.

So...

Be yourself.

Recover your true self.

Take off the masks.

Don't hit the mute button on your life.

It's all about alignment.

Align with your nature.

Find relationships and environments where you can fully show up.

Step out of fear or limitations into your true self.

To quote Marianne Williamson...

'Your playing small does not serve the world'.

'The world needs you'.

You need you.

Have an authentic week.

Sincerely,

Dr. Mike Davison
"Your Destiny Doctor"
mike@aninvitationtopersonalpeace.com

P.S. Have you considered hiring a coach?

More wisdom for your success jouney...

Saturate your consciousness with these ideas as you walk your Road to Success:

Know that Failure is Just an Event. We talked about this at length previously, but it bears repeating. If you fail, it doesn’t define you—it just puts you back at ‘square one’ with your idea and plan.

Consider Your Responsibilities Before Your Rights. Our American culture drums it in to us that we must “have it now,” and many of us comply. You are successful when you are mature enough to delay gratification and move your focus from your “rights” to your “responsibilities.”

Fill Up on Faith, Hope, & Love. Your outlook determines your output, and your output determines your outcome. Choose to be optimistic, to read uplifting books, to listen to inspirational speakers. When you put faith, hope, and love in your mind and heart, you’re able to overcome adversity and live free from anger, greed, guilt, and envy.

Make Friends with Your Past—and then Look Ahead. You can use your past as a stepping stone to your future or you can let it cripple you. Either way, it’s your choice. When you can make friends with your past, be focused on the present, and have a bright opinion of your future, you have succeeded, no matter what your goal is.

Know that Success Doesn’t Make You. Along with the idea above, understanding that a win doesn’t make you and a loss doesn’t break you. If you win, you’ll still have more wins to make before you “arrive,” and if you lose, you’ll have more opportunities to turn that around in the future.

Stand up for What is Right. If you take a stand for what is right, even if it’s unpopular or costs you your job, you are successful. There is no disputing this fact.

Be a “Servant Friend.” Success isn’t defined by how many people wait on your every whim or need; it’s defined by how many people you can help or serve while you achieve your goals. If you can help others as you climb, you’ll learn more and climb quicker. A servant’s heart is the true hallmark of a leader and shows the character of the person in the position of leadership.

To Your Success!

Dr. Mike Davison
"Your Destiny Doctor"
mike@AnInvitationtoPersonalPeace.com

Sustainable success...

Develop these 5 attributes of a successful person, and you will find yourself moving quickly toward your goals in life!

Thick Skin: You cannot be easily offended or hurt if you want to be successful. There will always be people who are jealous or envious or out to bring someone else down—you must develop a way to see past that and let it roll off your back, like “water off a duck’s back.”

Ducks have feathers that are tight and their density act like oil—it keeps the duck dry and warm. So when water (cold or otherwise) lands on the back of a duck, it simply rolls off. Let criticism roll off your back in a similar manner—because if you are going to be successful, you will have your share of criticism. Count on it.

Obedience: although this might seem strange to talk about to adults and not children, it is important to consider that in order to be a leader, you must first learn how to obey a leader. You must learn the principle of loyalty to a leader if you want to lead others.

Once you have learned how to obey and to follow directions, you can lead others and understand what commands and orders do for an organization and an individual. Consider this: 175 of the CEOs of Fortune 500 companies are former US Marines, and 27 US Presidents served in the military.

Courage: Bravery is not courage, but you cannot have courage without being brave. Courage is the moral fortitude to stand up for your character (touched on in the last article) and to do the right thing—even in the face of adversity.

When you have courage, you follow through on your vision. It’s on display every day and only the courageous have the ability to get the most out of life. When you have the strength of your conviction, find the courage to put it in to action. You won’t be sorry you did.

Intolerance: not exactly what you might expect to find in an article about success, but each of us must be intolerant of any number of things: Intolerant of abuse, of injustice, of the things that you know are immoral, unethical, or illegal. If there’s anything in this world you should be intolerant of, those are some of them. I hope you are an intolerant person—in the right way.

Sense of Humor: If you don’t have a sense of humor, you will fall flat on your face and never be someone who succeeds. A good portion of the road we walk to success is filled with blockades and potholes. If you come up against one and go down, you must have the ability to laugh at the situation and yourself. If you don’t, you will be angry and bitter about your misfortune and never move past it. Laugh at yourself and what you run up against and you’ll find your climb to the top is quicker and more enjoyable than you thought it would be.

To Your Success!

Dr. Mike Davison
"Your Destiny Doctor"
mike@aninvitationtopersonalpeace.com

Develop a Success Attitude!

In his book The Winning Attitude, John C. Maxwell, noted author and speaker tells us that attitude is:

The “advance man” of our true selves

Has inward roots but outward fruits

Is our best friend or worst enemy

Is more honest and more consistent than our words

Is an outward look based on past experiences

Is a think which draws people to us or repels them

Is never content until it is expressed

Is the librarian of our past

Is the speaker of our present

Is the prophet of our future

Your attitude, or your willingness to think positively, affects many people—from your family to the stranger you smile at in the grocery store. An optimist will see opportunity in difficulties, while a pessimist will see difficulty in opportunities.
You must choose which you will focus on: if you choose poorly, you will doom yourself to never achieving your goals and being successful. Count on that.

So how do you begin to think positively if you’re a natural pessimist? I don’t really believe there ARE natural pessimists, just people who have been taught how to consider the darkest side of every cloud.
You cannot change the fact that a problem exists, but you can do a lot to determine what opportunity is within that problem. Begin to see that problems are a fact of life and that your job is to find a way over, around, under, or through them—as quickly as possible. When you’re upbeat and consider how quickly a problem will be behind you, it’s easy to be optimistic.

Cynicism is another killer when it comes to attitude. It’s a cousin of pessimism—it considers everything suspect and everyone as having an ulterior motive. It never looks at someone handing you a piece of candy just to be nice, it always considers that there is a reason you’re being handed the candy and the motivation of the person who’s giving it.
Cynicism comes from having unrealistic expectations. Many people expect great and wonderful things to happen to them with little-to-no work on their parts. They expect things to fall from the sky in to their laps. When it doesn’t happen as they expect, they become suspicious of others who have achieved success and ultimately, cynical.

You must harness the power of your thoughts and words when setting your course for success. Use positive affirmations daily: remind yourself that a stumbling block is temporary and that you will overcome it; admit to yourself that you are courageous and able to move on when others cannot; agree with your vision for your life and your goals.

As you discipline yourself to do this, you will find optimism and positive thinking chasing you down the street. And who couldn’t use these two friends when we’re aiming for success?

To Your Success!

Dr. Mike Davison
"Your Destiny Doctor"
mike@PartnersInPurpose.com

Come along on a month long success ride.

For the next 30 days I have a gift for you. I am going to blog every day about success prinicples. It will focus on the principles and practices of success. The fundamentals.

To kick off today, I am going to address how success in not an individual sport. I need a success team. You need a success team. We all do.

Somewhere on your road to success, you’ll begin to understand that you are really never alone. There are amazing sources of strength and help everywhere you look—you just have to use them. You’ll have to look to find them and then know how to use them, but it beats the heck out of not having them at all!A team is incredibly important as you walk along your path. You may reap the benefits of success in your world, but you don’t get there alone. The fallacy of the “self-made man” is just that—because everyone is influenced directly and indirectly by scores of people.

Let’s look at a list of those involved:

Parents: if they were there to raise you, they had the greatest influence on your life. Feelings of love and security are established early—as early as birth. Children who have parents who love, care for, and protect them gain enormously both psychologically and physiologically.

Teachers: chances are there is a teacher who has made an impression on you that you remember to this day. Positive or negative, there are teachers in our lives who have the power to mold us and shape us. Sometimes we choose paths in response to a negative example a teacher has left us; more often than not, we choose paths that are due to the positive influence they’ve left in our lives.

Friends: the happiest and most successful people tend to have a wide range of friends from different walks of life. They encourage us, lift us up, and are part of an inextricable support system in our lives.

Mentors: smart people who truly desire success find mentors that will walk with them as they traverse their road. Mentors can point out pitfalls and potholes in the road that we might otherwise miss, and their experience and willingness to teach us is an invaluable gift.

Spiritual Leaders: ministers, priests, rabbis, pastors, etc., are in an amazing position to contribute positively and significantly in your life. Their ability to see past the circumstances and share life and light is unparalleled. Having a spiritual leader doesn’t guarantee that you’ll never feel despair, but it does guarantee that you won’t have to go through the dark times alone.

Just as you have a team as you work towards success, you can be a part of someone else’s team as well. Be a friend to someone who is just starting out on the road to success—encourage them, mentor them (if appropriate), and commit to be there for them when they need you. Do the right thing (remember your integrity), and have compassion in all situations. You’ll build your team and your success as you do these things!

To Your Success,

Dr. Mike Davison
"Your Destiny Doctor"
mike@aninvitationtopersonalpeace.com

P.S. If you are looking to take your success to the next level, consider hring a coach. If you are interested in a free coaching consultation, please email me.

Have a Purposeful Weekend!

Do you think that true happiness happens by luck or chance?

No way!

The truth is that you can cultivate a happy life if you fully connect
with your life's purpose.

Take a few moments today to more fully connect with your Life's
Purpose.

Consider doing yourself the favor of answering these questions
regarding your LIFE'S PURPOSE:

1) 'What is my life's purpose? What do I want to have accomplished
when I look upon my life in old age?'

2) 'How would I have to think, speak, and act in order to bring that
purpose into being?'

3) 'What daily choices, attitudes, and concrete accomplishments
would I do if I lived as if my purpose meant something to me?'

4) 'How would I live each day if I respected myself, others, and my
life's purpose?'

'The unexamined life is not worth living.'
-Socrates

Have a purposeful weekend!

To Your Best Life!

Dr. Mike Davison
"Your Destiny Doctor"
mike@aninvitationtopersonalpeace.com

P.S. Happy Father's Day!

What is your Big Dream?

Everyone has big dreams they want to achieve.

However..

Why is it only a few people reach them?

If you study the most successful men and women of our time, you will notice at least three characteristics they have in common.

1.) Successful people know what they want. It sounds simple, but most people just drift. They have a vague idea of what they want. But they have no direction. Think of the man in the first boat, who didn’t know which way to go. Where did he end up? Before you succeed at anything, you need to have clear direction. Take some paper and a pen, and write down your goal. It doesn’t have to be your life’s huge ambition. Just something that will bring you happiness and satisfaction. Keep writing until you have a very clear picture of what you want. When you are finished, you should be able to sum it up in one sentence.

2.) Successful people know how to stay on course. If they get off, they immediately correct themselves. The man in the second boat had a compass to keep him on target. You also have a fantastic compass within you. It’s called Intuition. All you have to do is learn to listen to it. Tune into your body right now. How do you feel when you think about your life? If you often get headaches, tension, or other ailments, it might be a sign from your Intuition that something needs to change..

3.) Successful people take action. A vision with no action plan is just a fantasy. What step will you take today to make your dream a reality? Research someone who has achieved what you want. Learn from them. How did they become a success? What first step might they have taken?

You don’t have to shake the foundations of the earth just yet. Just start with something small. Be consistent. Soon you will take action out of habit. If you persevere, you will take the prize.

My next message will further expand on principles on goal setting and goal achievement.

To Your Best Life!

Dr. Mike Davison
"Your Destiny Doctor"
Mike@aninvitationtopersonalpeace.com

P.S. Have you considered hiring a coach to help you achieve your Big Dream?

On Creating Success Habits...

Here are some thoughts (and an audio) that are related to "get going" and creating success habits.

Success is all about conditioning the mind to new beliefs, visions, dreams and goals.

Here are some ways to condition yourself for success:

Create vision boards. This could be of anything that you want to be, achieve or do when you are able to afford it, have more time doing so etc.

Write down powerful affirmations an read them with emotion each day.

Visualize your way towards success. Take any spare moment you have to imagine and visualize your dream life and what you would be doing.

Write down new beliefs and declarations that you need to change in order to achieve your goals.

A lot of us have limiting belief patterns that get in the way of what we want in our life and thus prevent us from achieving it.

These beliefs are a results of environment and what we believe to be true for ourselves and our lives. For example you could believe that you are not good enough and will never amount to much due to what people may have told you, you may believe that you are not worthy enough to have massive wealth and so on.

Now, we don't need to identify each and every of these moments and change the belief but rather do the steps above and all that will take care of itself automatically.

I found it extremely helpful to be absolutely clear what I want in life and condition my mind towards that new belief and vision multiple times per day.

I suggest looking at your goals and doing the reinforcement process once upon getting up, another time in the day time and right before you go to bed.

You will see a dramatic change takes place. Keep in mind that this does not have to take a lot of time. A few minutes a day a few times a day is enough.

Also check out this brief article that further makes this point:
http://partnersinpurpose.blogspot.com/2007/04/are-you-using-your-brain-to-your.html

Please feel free to contact me any time. My email address is Apsychdoc@aol.com or mike@aninvitationtopersonalpeace.com.

Regards,

Dr. Mike Davison
"Your Destiny Doctor"

Also check out this audio:

http://www.audioacrobat.com/play/W9RTNrBQ

Take the Bull by the Horns...

I hope you know I am speaking metaphorically.

You are capable of so much more inyour life.
Here are some ideas tohelp you take your life
to the next level.

Be mindful of how you interpret the world around you.
Human beings are meaning making machines. Life is
how you interpret it.

Prepare for change by inviting it.

Change is a given, so don't fight it.

Welcome change.

Embrace change.

Volunteer for change - or you just might find yourself being
drafted for it.

All people want to claim something, even if it is there own
confusion.

Transcend confusion.

Transcend mediocrity.

Make a commitment to claim something extraordinary.

Claim something bigger than you.

Learn to accept yourself. Dance lightly with your goblins.

Open yourself to the lessons the universe places in your lap.

Surround yourself with consciousness raising ideas.

Connect with people who help you raise your personal standards.

Read life changing material.

Be open to influence.

Be willing to alter old assumptions and ideas that no longer work
for you.

I leave you with a powerful proverb that for me captures a
consciousness I choose to embrace in the New Year.

Look to this day,
For it is life,
The very life of life.
In its brief course lie all
The realities and verities of existence,
The bliss of growth,
The splendor of action,
The glory of power --

For yesterday is but a dream,
And tomorrow is only a vision,
But today, well lived,
Makes every yesterday a dream
of happiness
And every tomorrow a vision of hope.

Look well, therefore, to this day.

Sanskrit proverb
by Kalidasa
Indian poet and playwright,
Fifth century A.D.

To Your Best Life!

Dr. Mike Davison
"Your Destiny Doctor"
mike@aninvitationtopersonalpeace.com

P.S. If you are ready to take your life to the next level,
consider one of my Life Design Coaching programs.

What is holding you back?

There are a number of things that can hold you back from creating and living your best life.

I find it helpful in my coaching to think in terms of five broad categories that can contribute to holding people back. Think of these as they relate to yourself.

The first category is related to clarity. Some people are held back because they don't know what they are trying to create.

Another category is related to "the plan". You need a clear game plan to achieve your most desired outcomes.

Another is related to "skills". Do you have the skills you need to accomplish your big dream? Maybe there is a skill set you need to develop.

The fourth potential area that may be holding you back is your inner life. By that I mean things like your beliefs, your attitude, your confidence level, and your overall mindset. Do you have the current consciousness you need to achieve your dreams?

A fifth area that maybe holding you back is your environment. Is your environment, and the people in it, supportive of the direction you want to move in?

Ask yourself questions about these five areas. If you feel stale, stuck or stagnant in anyway I encourage you to consider coaching to help you move forward.

To Your Best Life!

Dr. Mike Davison
"Your Destiny Doctor"
mike@aninvitationtopersonalpeace.com

If you keep doing what you are doing...

Yes.

If you keep doing what your doing, you will keep getting what you are getting.

Do you like what you are "geting" in life?

People who say "YES" to this question are typically very purposeful and intentional in how they design and live their life.

I spelled out some quick things you can to to get more purposeful and intentional about designing and living your life.

The first step is to examine where you are coming from. What have yor results been the the first 2 1/2 months of the year?

Ask yourself...

What have I accomplished?

What went well? What am I proudest of? What did I learn?
How did I grow? Where did I miss the mark? Where did my limitations occur? What did I learn? How will I grow?

Once you have examined your recent past, start to look forward. Be purposeful about creating the vision and your goals. Think like you are the architect of your life (because you are). Purposefuly design your life.

Write out answers to the following questions...

What is my vision (what I see that is possible), purpose (who I need to become to make the vision work) and mission (actual steps I can take) for the rest of the year.

What are my top ten goals?

The key is to align and integrate all aspects of your life with your core values.

Further ponder the following questions (preferably in writing!).

Who will I be accountable to (besides myself) to accomplishing my goals?

Who will I talk to and check in with to support my progress?

How will I celebrate my successes?

Regarding the set backs and challenges, how will I accept them and correct them?

To Your Best Life!

Dr. Mike Davison
"Your Destiny Doctor"

P.S. Are you slowing down enough to be purposeful about how you are designing and living your life?

P.S.S. If you have any questions about individualized
consultation or coaching to help you live your
big dream, contact me at mike@AnInvitationtoPersonalPeace.com .

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Shift happens...

I have mentioned in previous messages thing such as...

Your thoughts make a difference.

The environments you put yourself in make a difference.

Your emotions make a difference.

I came across some cool research that reinforces the notion that your MINDSET MATTERS.

What you focus on makes a difference.

Small shifts in your focus can make a difference.

Here is the Source: Crum, A. & Langer, E. (2007) "Mindset Matters: Exercise as a Placebo," Psychological Science, 18, 2.

Here is the ABSTRACT—In a study testing whether the relationship between exercise and health is moderated by one's mind-set, 84 female room attendants working in seven different hotels were measured on physiological health variables affected by exercise. Those in the informed condition were told that the work they do (cleaning hotel rooms) is good exercise and satisfies the Surgeon General's recommendations for an active lifestyle. Examples of how their work was exercise were provided. Subjects in the control group were not given this information. Although actual behavior did not change, 4 weeks after the intervention, the informed group perceived themselves to be getting significantly more exercise than before. As a result, compared with the control group, they showed a decrease in weight, blood pressure, body fat, waist-to-hip ratio, and body mass index. These results support the hypothesis that exercise affects health in part or in whole via the placebo effect.

Pretty powerful stuff, huh?

Have a great weekend.

Remember, shift happens...

Dr. Mike Davison
"Your Destiny Doctor"
mike@meditationandmore.com

P.S. Consider life design coaching so you can design and live your best life.